| 1 | Not At All |
| 2 | Hardly Ever |
| 3 | Sometimes but not often |
| 4 | About 50/50 |
| 5 | Frequently |
| 6 | Most, if not all of the time |
| 7 | Absolutely |
Use this table to respond to the following statements for both you and your beliefs about your spouse’s reaction. Please select the response 1-7 that best represents your views. You and your spouse will only benefit from the exercise by being completely honest.
| 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| javascript must be enabled | |||||||
| Personal Score | Your rating of spouse |
|---|
You should now print this page or simply record your personal score and your rating of your spouse. Now have your spouse complete this Marriage Meter. And, compare your personal score with your spouse’s personal score using the table below. Find your personal rating in the left column. Then, identify the column representing the range in which your spouse’s personal score fell. Once you have identified these two points, discuss with your spouse the results.
How closely did you and your spouse’s beliefs about each other mimic your actual scores? Discuss these results with your spouse as well.
| Personal | Spouse Rating | ||
|---|---|---|---|
| 48 and above | 40 -- 47 | Below 40 | |
| 48 and above | Maintain and minister | Listen to your spouse’s needs | Wake up from denial |
| 40 -- 47 | Communicate your needs | Avoid complacency in the routine | Act desperate |
| Below 40 | Cry for help | Evaluate your role in the marriage | Married-Living-Single |
NOTE: This marriage meter is not a statistically-validated or accepted diagnostic instrument. It is intended to encourage communication with your spouse as you identify areas of your marriage in which you and your spouse may have very similar or very divergent viewpoints. Please interpret this exercise with caution.